Thursday, December 3, 2009

Group Post: Finding Your Way in Chile

Yay! Another group post!!! I am really loving this idea. Good work whoever started this trend! Just to warn you, this post might not be the greatest of posts because I am currently functioning at peak stress levels and barely have a second to spare! I have ALL of my finals within the next week AND a paper worth 40% of my grade due on Monday (which I have conveniently not even started!). Oh to be done the semester! The light at the end of the tunnel seems so far away! Having said that, I just cannot bear the idea of not participating in these awesome group posts so here we go!

First of all, here are people's links who have posted on the topic already. If anyone else wants to join, just send me your link!

Maeskizzle

Finding your way in Chile...this is something I wish I could have read before going there for my first time. Here are some general guidelines and advice to help anyone that wants to go down South to the land of paltas, pisco, and cueca (the three things I most associate with Chile ha ha).

1.) Have a map of the general area you will be living in and the places you will frequent most often. If possible, try to actually understand that map.

Of course, this comes from personal experience. To those of you coming from smaller towns (like me!) and those who are directionally challenged (also like me!), this is especially for you! Santiago is not labelled very well. A street will change its name various times throughout its length and in many areas, streets aren't marked. I will never forget the stress of my first weeks (okay months) in Chile when I was constantly stumbling around and getting hopelessly lost all over Santiago! Poor E must have gotten about 50 phone calls a day from me on the verge of breakdown because I didn't know where I was and was late for my class! He even had to leave school to come find me once...or twice...ha ha! S0, as you can see, I am amongst the group of directionally handicap individuals and even now, 5 years after my first Chilean experience, I need a map with me at all times!

2.) Get to know the transit system.

Though it may not seem like it in the morning and evening hustle and bustle of the overwhelming Santiago traffic, Transantiago is your friend. The metro is the most efficient form of transportation, though at peak hours you can expect to find yourself plastered to the metro wall due over-stuffed metro cars. You can't be afraid to get physical and fight for your right to get off at your stop. With all those people in there, it may be necessary to push and shove and scream your way out of those metro doors.

Another piece of advice: if using the bus system...do not...I repeat, DO NOT stand up until the bus comes to a full and complete stop!!! I once did this, and flew to the front of the bus when the driver decided to slam on his breaks at the last minute. I also witnessed an old woman get seriously injured after flying to the front of the bus and hitting her head on the windshield! (The ambulance actually had to come!).

One last tip: the direction of traffic changes on certain main streets at different times of the day. The purpose of this is to accommodate the morning and evening traffic rush. So know your bus stops well! And don't be surprised if you come out of the bus black and blue, Chilean bus drivers can be a bit rough!

3.) Take advantage of the ferias!

The ferias are farmers markets which are conveniently distributed all over the city. Buying produce here is so much cheaper and you have a much bigger and delicious selection!

4.) Piropos: Get used to being cat-called.

I don't need to say much about this one. In Chile, like most Latin American countries, you will get cat-called no matter what you wear, where you go, or what you do. Be especially weary of passing by a construction site because the noise from all the piropos will deafen you. Because of this, it is necessary (as a woman) to watch what you wear. You can get away wearing a mini skirt in North America, but in Chile, make sure you wear tights with that skirt unless you want to be yelled and whistled at all day! For those of you who are blond and blue eyed, I feel especially sorry for you! Blond hair and blue eyes is pretty rare in Chile and so these people are likely to attract much more attention than us boring brown-haired ladies. (Just kidding! Brown rocks!)

5.) Eating in Chile.

The two things that most blew me away were how much palta (avocado) is eaten here and how late people eat their dinners! Now I'm not complaining about the palta obsession, I LOVE palta and when in Chile, I eat them as often as possible! But it's really interesting how late Chileans like to eat their dinners. Sometimes my fiance and his family will go out to eat around 10 or 11! It's just another thing to get used to. Don't worry about going hungry until dinner though, Chileans have a great little in-between lunch and dinner snack time called "once" which is really just plain wonderful! At "once" you're likely to eat some freshly made bread with palta, cheese, and cold-cuts. In the mornings and evenings Santiago is full of the glorious smell of freshly baked bread...a smell that I will forever associate with Chile.

6.) Learn and use Spanish!

Assuming that everyone speaks English is just rude and ignorant. Try to learn at least a little Spanish before coming down and try using it. Most Chileans will be grateful that you are at least trying and will be more likely to help you out. However, be warned that Chilean Spanish is nothing like the "Spanish" you probably learned in high school! No matter how stellar you think your Spanish skills are, you can expect to be blown away by a typical Chilean conversation. The Spanish here is faster, less pronounced, and full of expressions and slang you've probably never even heard of before. Don't stress, just relax...you'll learn it soon enough, we all do!

7.) Be nice to people!

I'll admit that even I struggle with this one at times, and I'm a nice person (at least I consider myself one!). In the big, crowded, loud, and busy city of Santiago, it's so easy to let the city turn you into a cold, hardened, and bitter person, especially since it's hard to get used to some of the quirks of Chilean life. Because of this, you might feel the need to complain, pack up and leave, and just be plain mean to everyone you bump into on the street. This is all the more reason to remain positive and "nice". It comes as a pleasant surprise to a lot of people in Santiago when you stop and take the time to help or be nice to them. For example, holding the doors open, chatting with the bus driver or cashier at the supermarket, giving someone a smile, and all those other little random acts of kindness can really warm the hearts of many Chileans. Plus you're representing your country and making us look good!

I learned this from a bad experience...I was in a bad mood one day and pushing and shoving my way through the metro station onto the metro. There was about 50 people waiting to get in through the doors and I had a big duffle bag to squeeze through on top of that. I was so fed up and stressed that I just pushed my way on the metro like everyone else, and didn't really care to check what my bag was doing. My bag ended up hitting this lady and knocking her down! I felt horrible! I felt so stupid and inconsiderate and rude for not being more careful and for giving into the occasional stress and negativity of big city life. To make matters worse, she decided to yell at me the ENTIRE metro ride home. She exclaimed (to any random metro passenger that would listen...so EVERYONE) that I was such a horrible person and how us "gringas" are so rude and conceded and how disgusting I was to place myself first before a poor old lady etc...you get the picture. Now I know she might have played it up a little too much, causing me to die from embarrassment the whole metro ride home, but I deserved it. Now, whenever I am ready to explode from the stress and annoyance that occasionally rears its ugly head when living in Santiago, I remember that instance on the metro and have vowed never to let that city get to me again!

8.) Explore this marvelous country!!!

Chile is seriously one of the most beautiful countries I have seen in my life! It has everything you could ever want. The vast deserts and abandoned beaches in the North, the Central wine and pisco country full of fertile lands and many great beaches, and the rustic natural paradise of the South, complete with volcanoes, islands, rivers, lakes, glaciers, mountains, and forests that go on forever. I'm a big out-doors person so Chile for me is a paradise. Go out and see it! Explore it! Don't just stick to Santiago because the image you get from that city absolutely does not represent the entire country.

9.) Take advantage of Chilean culture.

For example, take advantage of the Chilean arts: music, dance, theater, etc...I am inlove (obsessed) with Inti Illimani. I go to their concerts every chance I get. This group is incredible. I especially love the newer branch of this group (long story, there are two divisions of this group because they separated). To me the music of Inti Illimani is the music of Chile. It encompasses this country in every way. You really get a feel for Chile by learning its history and listening to its folkloric and traditional art.

10.) Make Chilean friends.

This is probably one of the hardest things to do for foreigners. It seems particularly difficult for women to make Chilean girlfriends. You just have to realize that this stems from the fact that Chile is a collective society. Most people have the same group of friends they've had since they could walk, and therefore, it takes a lot before you can call yourself someone's friend. However, don't despair! Just give it time and don't give up! Soon enough you'll find that your group of Chilean friends is slowly expanding. Once you do eventually find yourself a Chilean friend, there's no doubt they will be the most loyal and truest friend you have and will most likely be your friend for a very long, long, long time.

Okay so that's all for now! I'm sure there are many more but unfortunately, I have to turn my attention to studying now! Buuuuuu!

Tuesday, December 1, 2009

Group Post: How to Alienate a Chilean

Okay, next time I decide to write a group post, I'm not going to read anyone else's before writing. I think everyone has pretty much mentioned everything that first popped into my head and so now it's hard to think of my own. Hey I'm new at this blogging thing! I'll definitely keep that in mind for next time. Oh, before I move on, I also have a novice blogging question: Sometimes when I post a blog, I'll notice some errors and so I edit it. Then I press "publish" and think that everything is fine. However, on my dashboard, I've noticed that one person's post came up various times. So does this mean that every time you edit and re-publish, your post will pop up again? If so, that could be very annoying and confusing to someones dashboard and I wouldn't want to be doing this because there are times when I edit and re-publish like 10 times! So if anyone knows the answer to this, please let me know. Thanks! Any other words of advice is appreciated too!

Okay, now on to how to alienate a Chilean...First of all, here are the blogs of people who have already written on the topic. They are great, check them out! I'm going to try to think of some that nobody has posted on yet...


So, some extra ways to alienate Chileans:

1.) Never have a PJ day.

I lived in Chile with my fiance in his parents home for a full year before I moved out into my own apartment so I had the experience of living with a Chilean family and adapting to their customs. One thing that was absolutely not tolerated and totally frowned upon was just having one of those lazy PJ days that everyone needs now and then. Once in a while, I love waking up in the morning, making a fresh pot of coffee, and then lounging around in bed all day reading, watching TV, and just relaxing. I think these types of days are totally necessary, especially when one is working like a dog all week. These days are especially necessary in the crazy city of Santiago where your stress levels are likely to rise through the roof at times. However, strange as it may be, people don't do PJ days in Chile. As soon as you wake up, you shower, change, and then start your day. And my god you had better be dressed and ready to go before lunch is served!

2.) Never wear sweatpants...

...doing so results in people thinking you are either sloppy, a bum, or ready for bed. People in Chile are very aware and concerned about their appearance. You rarely see Chileans (well, at least the middle and high class Chileans) walking around looking anything less than neat. Sure, their fashion sense may be a little off, but most people still put a lot of effort into their appearance. Aka, you don't see people walking around in sweatpants...EVER. Not even in their own home! Living with E's family, I learned this the hard way. Sometimes after a hard day, I want to kick off my shoes and take off my uncomfortable work clothes and just put on my sweatpants and chill. Of course, when I do this, I am greeted with various frowning faces. People think that when you wear sweatpants, or any kind of comfortable clothing, you are ready for bed. They feel that the day is over for you and that you are not capable of doing anything else. I have unknowingly offended many Chilean family members when I put on my sweatpants because they assume that it means that doing so prevents me from going outside or helping them or socializing with them or doing anything else which involves leaving my room. Once E asked me, "why do you get into your PJs so early?" I tried explaining to him that just because I am wearing sweatpants does not mean that they are my PJs and that it is bedtime. I will happily continue to carry out all my normal daily activities in my comfortable sweatpants thank you. In Chile, you wear your daily work clothes from the second you wake up to the second you put your head on your pillow to go to sleep.

3.) Never discuss Chile's social situation in relation to other Latin countries.

Once at a party, we were discussing how Chileans differ in comparison to other Latin Americans. I brought up this article I found on Chilean depression rates and how it is the most depressed country in Latin America. (I couldn't find the same article but here is a similar one). I think pretty much everyone in that party turned on me. They said the study was done wrong, the measurements were off, etc...etc... Almost nobody would accept the possibility that a study pointed to Chile as being the most unhappy and depressed country in the Latin world. I didn't really look into the research behind this issue yet and so I can't say much about the topic but I plan to really investigate it more in depth and write a post about it in the future.

4.) DO shout comebacks to all the piropos...

...that is, unless you don't want to get harassed for it afterwards! Now this is a situation where you most definitely WANT to alienate a Chilean. Even though it's positive for you, technically, it does fall under the category of alienation. Upon hearing the usual piropos (cat calls) from Chilean men, try this for a change. Try catching them off guard and embarrassing them in front of all their friends. Say something mild like, "what are you looking at old man" or something a little more harsh, depending on the situation. You're likely to hear the Chilean man respond with a stream of insults and cusses. In Chile, it's okay for men to demean women with their disgusting remarks comments and cat calls but when women respond or try to defend themselves, it is NOT okay and you will hear all about it!

5.) Never ever EVER compare Chileans with Argentinians!

This is self explanatory. I love Chile but there are many things that people (especially foreigners) compare Chile with to their neighbors and rivals, especially the Argentinians! Soccer...attractiveness...food....social customs...the list goes on. Don't do it! Better yet, just don't bring up Argentina at all. Unless of course you are bashing it.

6.) Never go to the cinema alone....or do anything else alone for that matter.

Chile is a very collective society where you do everything with someone or other. Never alone. I am a very independent person on the other hand. There was once a time where I had nothing to do and spontaneously decided to go to see a movie. After advising E of this, he was shocked and desperately told me to call "so and so" or "his friends girlfriend" or "a friend of a friend of his" or anyone to go with me! He couldn't understand how I could go alone. I guess he found it sad and wanted to look out for me but I am perfectly content doing things on my own from time to time. When I got home the family was shocked to find out that I had gone to see a movie solo ha ha. They must have thought I was a such a loser.

7.) Never attempt your own version of the cueca.

In the beginning when I didn't know much about the cueca, I decided to wing it and do my own little thing. I thought I would get a few laughs at creating my own version of the cueca (the national Chilean dance)....not...funny. I received quite a few frowns and even a few faces of disgust. My dance really wasn't that bad! Really! Let's just say I added a "twist" to it since I sucked at it anyway. However, in the end I even managed to offend my partner who up and left me on the dance floor! Words of advice: Chileans take the cueca very seriously. You either dance it and dance it well...or don't dance it at all!

Friday, November 27, 2009

The Countdown Begins...

Only 3 more weeks until I'm in Chile!!! I CAN'T WAIT ANY LONGER!!! Why oh why is time so cruel that it seems slow down so painfully in the last few weeks?! Arrghghhg!!#%#@^!!@# And to top it all off, I have more work in these next three weeks than I had in the last three months of this entire semester! How the hell am I going to finish it all?! I mean, I can deal with school, but I'm also doing an honors project (a bacterial genomics project) and I need to finish certain experiments and get certain results before I leave because while I'm in Chile I have to start writing up my thesis!

So this honors project the biggest pressure for me...that and doing well in all my classes in this last year of school because it's my last shot to boost my GPA, which I need to be really high if I want my future educational plans to work out! So I can't just forget about school either and focus on my honors project. Usually when one is confronted with such a dilemma, one option usually has to take a bit of a hit and suffer a little since it's impossible to dedicate the same amount of time and effort to both, but in my case, that's NOT an option. I MUST do well in both! Kill me now. So with all these worries in my mind, it's impossible to think of the light at the end of the tunnel which is Chile :( I don't even find running relaxing anymore because as I'm running all I'm thinking about is, "I have to hand these calculations in to my supervisor NOW!", "I have to wedge three chapters of anatomy and physiology into my brain by tomorrow!", "I have to start this experiment NOW!", "I have a paper worth 40% of my grade due next week, and I haven't started!!!"....Nevertheless, I'm going running right now...usually the after-run endorphins calm me down a little.

When I do get a chance to think about the light (aka Chile), of course the first thing that pops into my mind is E...who I can't stand being separated from a second longer, and of course I think about E's family and all the people I miss. But strangely enough, the second thing that pops into mind is, the food!!!! Specifically, the "palta", which us North Americans lovingly refer to as the "avocado". I love this fruit (or is it a vegetable?) with all my heart. If I could, I would eat it with every meal. You can eat it sweet or salty. It goes with anything. Now before you wince in disgust at the thought of a sweet palta, go to Brazil where they make this fabulous avocado dessert, which conveniently I forget the name of, which is deeeliiicious!!!! They basically pure avocados, add lime and sugar, and you have an instant avocado smoothie! Okay I know it doesn't sound too appetizing when you've eaten avocados salty your entire life but trust me, it's TO DIE for!!!

Anyway, so while in Chile for the holidays, I plan to eat an avocado with every meal, and maybe even for "once",what the Chileans refer to as a snack or "tea time" and is eaten around 6ish, if I'm not all palta-ed out by then. I also plan to go to the market behind E's house EVERY day to buy a selection of fresh summer fruit and veggies! The markets in Chile are something I miss dearly. I miss being able to buy fresh, in-season, and cheap produce. In Canada, even when it's in-season, it's expensive, and it isn't necessarily fresh. I love love love the variety of things they have in those Chilean markets. I used to buy like a bag of cherries a day during the summer...then I come back to Canada and find that about 12 cherries costs the same as a huge bag of them in Chile...and to top it all off, they're not as plump and juicy and fresh as they are in Chile. So, to all the gringas and chileans out there reading my blog, next month, when you're buying your weekly produce, don't be surprised to see a crazy tall gringa moseying about the various markets with a palta in one hand and bags bursting at the seams with overflowing produce in the other :) Ahhh...that'll be the day!

Okay so now I'm off to run! Hopefully that calms me down a little!!! Until next time!

Tuesday, November 24, 2009

Snowboarding at My Beloved Mountain


This is just a quick post to let everyone know that I had the most incredible day snowboarding today! It was the
first day of the season and though there is no snow in town, there is a ton of it in the mountains! The conditions were great, the temperature was perfect, it was sunny and clear and just beautiful!

I love this mountain for many reasons: 1.) because I love, and have always loved, snowboarding, 2.) it is where I met my future husband, 3.) it is where my future husband proposed to me, 4.) I have a growing collection of wonderful memories at that place beginning when I was about 10, 5.) I used to work the winter seasons up there while living at the hostel...and anyone who has ever worked and lived at a ski resort knows how much fun that can be, and 6.) it is just so damn beautiful and I always tend to lose myself there and forget I am on planet Earth with all the million stresses of life waiting for me back at home. It's my happy place :)

So with that I'm off to bed because I have two projects due tomorrow so I have to wake up early to do the finishing touches. I don't know about anyone else but as for me it is physically impossible to study after about 9-10pm-ish. I just can't. I'd much rather get up at 4am the next day to finish things I didn't finish the night before than work late into the night. This makes it impossible for me to leave things until the last minute...which I guess is good in a way!

Alright so to close I'll leave you with some of my favorite pictures of the day :) Good night!













Saturday, November 21, 2009

What Is Up With The Weather!? Where Is The Snow!?


Is anyone else experiencing crazy weather these days? I live in Western Canada in a place that has very cold winters but very warm summers. Usually by November, we can expect to say fairwell to "above zero" temperatures until spring (and to all you Americans, that is "below 32" lol). However, it is now nearing the end of November and we have barely reached -2C so far! The other day I went running and I was running in my T-shirt and shorts. I have never run in a T-shirt and shorts in November before. It must have been over 10C! Today is no different and I plan on taking advantage of running in this warm weather because god knows how long it will last. Generally in the depths of the Canadian winter, I hibernate from running because getting up at 6am in the dark sub-zero temperatures is really not fun. Plus, the last time I tried running in the snow I got seriously injured which prevented me from running for months. So for now, I'll run this warm weather out as long as I can.

On one hand I'm happy about the mild temperatures, but on the other hand, I want my cold, snowy white Christmas! I love the month of anticipation and preparation before Christmas and that for me has always included snow. I still can't believe we haven't gotten a good dump of snow yet. This is really really weird. Global warming? I don't know...but everything in town is the depressing colour of mud since everything is dead and just waiting for the snow to cover it. Come on snow!



I haven't had a snowy white Christmas in three years now because for every Christmas, I've gone to Chile to be with E. I've always planned my trip to leave right after my last exam so I usually write my exam, and leave right away the next day in order to spend as much of the winter vacation with E as possible. This plan has always been really stressful or me since the last three weeks of classes I'm a basket case from studying and then get on a plane and leave just like that. Because of this I've never really gotten to enjoy the Christmas season here...which is sad and the only memory my family has of me over Christmas is the stressed out, sleep-deprived, crazy student. However, this year, it worked out that I get 4 free extra days after my last exam to just relax and enjoy the season here! There was a mix up of flights and they ended up moving my flight etc...long story.

So anyway, though at first we were a little bummed, now I realize it's for the best. I'll finally get to enjoy a bit of the Christmas season with my family, do some snowboarding, go Christmas shopping, help decorate the house and the tree, do some Christmas baking with my mom...all in 4 days! I can do it! It's going to be a condensed 4 day Christmas season for me ha ha! In Chile they don't really get into the "Christmas prep" as much as we do here. At least that's how I see it with E's family. No Christmas baking...no Christmas tree (well, no real one at least), no Christmas lights, etc...So I'm definitely going to take advantage of my 4 day Christmas season here!


I just can't wait until school is OVER and I'm free!

And with that, I'm off for a run. Here's hoping the snow comes soon!!!

Monday, November 16, 2009

The Classics

Here's a fun fact about me: I am completely obsessed with classical music. I don't know where it came from, but it's all I listen to. When I run, when I study, when I walk to catch the bus...there I am, listening to Beethoven, Mozart, Chopin, or Bach...I love it! I've found that it just totally clears my mind and takes all the stress away. It's also a lot easier to study to music with no words in it. I have to say that Beethoven is my favourite. His music is just so dramatic and different.

I happen to stumble upon "Immortal Beloved" on TV the other night and became so enthralled in the mystery of Beethoven's life. Anyone ever see that movie? It's movies like that that make me wish I could go back in time to relive those old romantic time periods where the most important things in life revolved around music, art, dance, and pleasure. Okay, maybe it wasn't as easy if you were in the poor class, but what hit movie in that time period focuses solely on the poor class. Most of them are all about royalty, balls, beautiful gowns, operas...the movies make those old time periods seem like one big happy party and it would be so nice to join it for a day :)

Anyway, that movie just got me thinking...what I wouldn't give to be able to go to an opera or symphony or ballet every night of the week. (I'm big into the arts). It seems that as our society continues to plow forward into modernization and globalization and such, the beauty and joy of the arts becomes more and more lost and forgotten. There is nowhere near as much importance placed on the arts as it was back in the day. It seems that the theater has suffered the most since now everything is on the big screen, even operas and musicals (Phantom of the Opera, Rent, Fame, Mamma Mia...and the list goes on).

Okay, back to reality. No word yet on E's job...he's supposed to hear from them this week. I'm going to be in Chile in exactly ONE MONTH!!! Yes that's right!!! And I am way too excited to be taking school seriously right now! Though I have to force myself to do so. On the agenda for December is spending as much time together as possible: first weekend in Cajon del Maipo to check out the location of the church where we'll wed and reception site, make the invitations, and plan a bunch of wedding details together (since E wants to wait until we're together to do most of the planning). We're probably spending Christmas at the beach house with the family, and for the big bicentennial New Years celebration we're definitely in Vina. It's gonna be a good one! I can't WAIT!!! And of course because I'm heading into beach weather, it's time to start trying to drop my accumulating winter flab! Extra running miles for me!

Sunday, November 8, 2009

Wedding Planning from A Far...Don't Forget the Groom!



God it's so easy to leave out the groom in the wedding planning. I'm curious to know, if any of you have experience wedding planning, what proportion of the wedding planning would you say was done by you and your fiance separately and together? I didn't even realize I had been doing most of the planning until a long and controversial chat with E, after which, I felt pretty crappy. I always kind of assumed that it was okay for the bride to go crazy and take over the wedding planning, but am now worried that I might be turning into a bridzilla. I was also led to think that E wasn't that into wedding planning since every time I brought up the subject on Skype he would always say, "we'll see...we'll see...we can talk about it later..." etc.

Now, I'm excited about planning a wedding and I was busy looking at bridal magazines and bridal websites and dreaming about little wedding details from the day he proposed. So I can't help it if I get ahead of myself and dream about our wedding day. Plus, there are some things that must be decided before hand. For example, if we hadn't picked out our venue when we did, our date would have been booked within the day! I know in Chile this is rare since, in most cases, people usually leave wedding planning until a few months before the wedding but this place we wanted was really popular.



So anyway, in our conversation on Skype, E confessed to me that the only reason he didn't like talking about the wedding was because he didn't want to talk about it and plan it apart. Which broke my heart of course. He said that planning the wedding was a special time and he wanted to do it together, not by chatting on Skype. I understand his point of view but at the same time, I'm excited! I want to be looking at wedding stuff and talking to someone about it! And because of that, I've been the one to find pretty much most of our options so far regarding the wedding. Of course I've asked E about all of them and he either agreed or disagreed, but we've made the decision together. I guess the point is that he wants to be making the decision processes and the "looking" etc. together. And I can understand that. But still! Come on! I'm a bride! Am I really so in the wrong?!

Anyway, after that conversation I realized how easy it is for the bride to take over. E hasn't been looking at any wedding related things because he just wants to wait to do it together and here I am going and looking and deciding on everything. Anyone else have experience with this? How did you try to equally distribute wedding responsibilities? Or was it mostly left up to the bride? I guess for some grooms wedding planning isn't as big as a deal as it is to the bride, but in my case, I didn't realize it was as important to E. I guess I shouldn't have just assumed and bought into that old stereotype. Then again, planning a wedding from two different continents is quite a challenge.

So, I've decided that from now on, I will not be planning any more wedding-related details alone. We've planned all the important things: the venue, the caterer, the photographer (thanks to Kyle), the wedding dress, and the church (though we haven't reserved it yet because the priest won't let us since it's "too early" haha!). The rest can wait until we're together.